My husband told me to go out and find new people. He said something about going out and meeting people and change my life, blah, blah, blah. Easy for him to say. It's different for men. Men can get away. Women can't or won't. I knew women that their husband were fine with getaway trips and they wouldn't do it because they needed to spend time with their husbands; like watching the news or something lame like that. Other women can't go because the man makes such a fuss they decide keeping the peace is more important at that moment in their lives. Not all men are as liberal and undemanding as my husband. For some reason he can't seem to understand that. We go over this a lot.
The other issue is that I meet women that would go do these things and I don't like them enough to go away for a weekend with them. You can't make relationships click. They either do or don't. The next issue is money. Many women simply can't afford it or husbands don't let them have the money.
I so badly want to go on a getaway. It's not from a lack of trying. Hell, I strike up conversations with strangers in the grocery store.* It's not like I don't attempt to make connections. I just find it really difficult being a woman and doing so. It seems effortless for my husband to make friends and then go away for a weekend year after year. Meanwhile, I trudge along.
*husband said I should take a grocery store stranger with me
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I've seen this often. Men, especially working outside the home, have way more opportunities to have acquaintances turn into friendships, and women tend to be hesitant about "going out" without a companion...there's an unfair stigma about this in America. Most of the women I know hate eating alone at a café or restaurant, and men never give it a second thought. There used to be a restaurant called GoJo's in KC, and I used to go there alone when I just had to have some company, but no one was available. They seat you with 7 strangers, sometimes a whole family, sometimes a group visiting for a convention, and I always had a great time. Also, a 3-cruise is a safe way to meet others who share your interests...especially if it's a theme affair in an hobby/art/study area you like.
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